Several years ago, I bought a book called “A Candle in the Forest” which is a compilation of Christmas stories by Joe Wheeler. One of the stories is called, “The Last Straw” by Paula MacDonald and is about a family whose children can’t stop bickering and fighting. The Mom remembers a tradition her Grandmother told her as a child. Each person in the family writes their name on a piece of paper and then they each draw a name and play “Secret Angel” for a week. Each time someone performs a kindness, like making a bed or does another’s chore secretly, they can place a straw in the nativity to prepare a place for Jesus when he comes on Christmas Eve. Thus, their home is transformed from a place of bickering and anger to a joyous home where each member places each others needs first.
Each year, I read this story out loud and then we draw names each week for several weeks during the Advent season. We have a basket and strips of fleece that can be placed (secretly) in the basket every time we do a kindness for another family member. Then on Christmas Eve, after everyone has gone to bed, Scott and I place a “baby Jesus” in the basket and put the basket under the tree. Signifying that we are preparing for Jesus’ coming in our hearts and our home.
We have found this to be a great way to prepare our hearts and home for the coming Christmas celebration. It’s one more way to have “J.O.Y”. (Jesus, Others then Yourself)
***Edited later to add: If you have older children “who are getting too smart for their britches” as my Grams says, you might want to state that they are not to purposely try and figure out everyone’s Angel. It does not bring love and harmony to a home – trust me.
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Categories: parenting